Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month


President Ronald Reagan declared October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month in 1988.

I was I have a seven year old.

(And a few more besides.)

I had no idea what this meant in 1988, but in 2015 it means a lot to me that a leader of our country would think it was important enough to declare a special month in honor of all of those babies who have been gone from our lives too soon.

On that day, President Reagan stated:

When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them. This month recognizes the loss so many parents experience across the United States and around the world. It is also meant to inform and provide resources for parents who have lost children due to miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy, molar pregnancy, stillbirths, birth defects, SIDS, and other causes.
Now, Therefore, I, Ronald Reagan, President of the United States of America, do hereby proclaim the month of October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month. I call upon the people of the United States to observe this month with appropriate programs, ceremonies, and activities.

It is wonderful to see how many groups have embraced this month as a month to remember.  In past years, I have participated with many others in the October 15th, Wave of Light by posting a photograph of a candle as my Facebook profile for an hour at 7:00 PM local time, creating a wave of light across the internet.

Over the past year, I have felt called to do more to honor and remember these precious little souls.  This is one of the big reasons that we participated in the fundraiser event for the Star Legacy Foundation just last weekend.  More research is needed and awareness needs to be raised so that health care providers are prepared to handle the unique needs of mothers in high risk pregnancies and in pregnancy care during and after a loss.

I have been humbled and honored to hear stories from many women about their own losses.  I have been feeling more and more called that this blog should be used as a tool and a space for women to share their least more than it has been this far.  So I want to go on the record as saying that I will not stop talking about my girls and miscarriages because it is up to me to make sure that their legacies continue.

During the month of October, I would like to pray for all of the families that have been touched by pregnancy and infant loss.  In reality, I already do pray for you, but I want to honor your child by adding his or her name, or even just date of a miscarriage on my wall.  In the photo above, you can see some of the names that I have started to add from my call on Facebook for names.  Over the next month please share whatever information you would like and I will add a star for your baby.   I'll post pictures throughout the month on various social media so that all of you will have a chance to see your star.

There is plenty of room on this wall and the one next to it.  While I hate that there have been so many babies gone too soon, I still want to fill the wall because I want all of us to understand that we are not alone.

We must speak their names, because if not us, then who?

Speak Their Names 2015

To read more of our pregnancy and infant loss journey, click here.


Kerri Baunach said...

What a beautiful idea, Heidi. I used to write something for all my babies on my blog on each anniversary. I have kind of fell away from it the last year or so, but I do hope to get back to it. I'd love to add the names of my babies to your wall. Thank you for praying for them!! Casey Marie, 3-31-2008; Zachary Thomas, 1-11-2009; and Brigit Ann, 5-10-2010. Thank you!

Amy Eichsteadt said...

Thank you for the post and your offer of prayer, Heidi. You can add Evangeline Helen to your wall (1/30/15).